Feel embarrassed to talk about what they are going through
Are worried that others will find out about the struggles they are experiencing
Are unsure whether they need help
Have had previous bad experiences when trying to seek help
Think that nothing and no one can help
Do not realise the seriousness of their problems
If your child does not show signs of concern but you are still worried or sense they may be hiding their feelings, trust your instincts and initiate a conversation with your child about seeking help early.
Here are some things you can consider when starting the conversation:
Find opportunities where you and your child are in a private space or engaged in a shared activity (e.g. in the car, doing the dishes together, taking a walk) to have the conversation
Sit squarely facing them to show that you are paying attention
Keep an open posture by keeping your arms open and relax, to make the other feel more comfortable
Lean forward
Make eye contact
Be relaxed
For example you can say:
For more tips on having these conversations with your child, you can learn more here.
If your child shares anything about harming themselves or being harmed during your conversation, seek their agreement to share this information with a professional so that you can better support them.
When seeking their approval, let your child know that you can work through options to seek help together. You can offer to make and accompany them to an appointment if they prefer that. You can find out more about options to seek help here.
Just as it is necessary for you to put on an oxygen mask for yourself before helping others on airplanes during an emergency, it is important for you to prioritise self-care and your mental well-being so that you are in a better position to support your child.
If you find yourself struggling with your mental health, do reach out and seek help. Remember, the best way to care for your child is to first ensure that you take good care of yourself.
Caring for Yourself
