(ii) Addressing the barriers to reaching out for support for your child
Like your child, you may also have some worries and concerns about your child seeking support for their mental health. Remember that seeking help is not a sign of weakness but one of resilience and courage, and doing so early is important for better recovery.
Here are some common concerns parents may have:
“I don’t want others to treat my child differently.”
“I don’t want my child to have a mental health record that
might negatively affect their future.”
“I don’t know if mental health interventions will work for my
child.”
“I don’t want my child to suffer side effects from
medication.”
“I don’t know what the intervention process is like.”
“I don’t know how much mental health interventions may cost.”
“I want to help my child, but I don’t have the time.”
“I don’t want others to treat my child
differently.”
It is understandable to worry about how your child will be viewed by others if
they receive support for their mental health. It is also likely that your child
may have similar concerns (e.g. judgement from others). However,
despite difficulties in openly discussing mental health, it is not an uncommon
experience.
According to the Singapore Youth Epidemiology and Resilience (YEAR) Study
(2023) conducted by the National University of Singapore, 1 in 3 youths
(aged 10 to 18) in Singapore experienced symptoms such as sadness, anxiety,
and loneliness. As such, it is important to raise awareness and talk about
mental health and well-being openly so that it may become easier for people
to discuss their experiences.
While receiving professional help can be a big step to take, it is key in
preventing your child’s mental health from worsening. As a parent, you have
the power to be your child’s biggest ally. You can do so by showing
them that you prioritise their well-being and want to involve them in their
own process of seeking professional help.
Your care and support will be crucial in helping your child navigate any judgment
from others or tough conversations that may come their way. The opinions of
others should not prevent you from ensuring that your child gets
the right support they need.
“I don’t want my child to have a
mental health record that might negatively affect their future.”
Many parents (and youths themselves) may be worried about the perceived long-term
impact that a recorded mental health diagnosis might have on their child’s
prospects, such as their future career or education.
However, government agencies have put in place policies and guidelines that
require fair hiring practices to be applied to everyone, including those with
mental health conditions. Agencies are also educating employers to
ensure that they understand and follow these guidelines.
Under the Ministry of Manpower’s (MOM) Tripartite Guidelines on Fair
Employment Practices, companies should not ask job applicants to declare
personal information, which includes their mental health conditions, unless
it is a job-related requirement.
Click here to read the Tripartite Guidelines on Fair
Employment Practices.
Companies can also follow the recommendations in the Tripartite Advisory on
Mental Health and Well-being at Workplaces here to support the mental health and well-being of
employees.
“I don’t know if mental health
interventions will work for my child.”
There are a wide range of interventions that have been shown to effectively
address mental health struggles in children and youths. As it can be daunting to
identify which interventions are effective and suitable for your
child, seeking advice from professionals can ease the process. They will be able
to explain the interventions in detail (e.g. what the intervention involves) and
answer any questions you and your child may have.
When you approach a mental health professional, you can ask them for more
details about:
The type of intervention plan that is appropriate for your child
Whether the interventions in your child’s plan have been shown to be
effective or evidence-informed
“I don’t want my child to suffer side
effects from medication.”
Most people who need help managing their mental health benefit from a combination
of different forms of support (e.g. from family and peers, counselling without
medication, psychotherapy without medication, or psychotherapy
with medication). Whether your child is given medication will depend on the
mental health professional’s assessment.
If your child is recommended medication, the mental health professional will
inform you and your child of potential side effects (if any) and ways to manage
them. It is also usually prescribed in combination with psychotherapy
sessions, where your child will learn and practice healthier ways to cope with
their feelings.
Remember, medication is not a ‘magic pill’ that instantly solves or cures
problems with mental health. It is crucial that your child follows
the support and intervention plan recommended by the professionals
supporting them.
Their mental health professional will also review the intervention plan with
you and your child periodically, to ensure it is still suited to your
child’s needs and that any side effects are managed appropriately.
Click here to find out more about psychiatric medications
published on the Institute
of Mental Health (IMH) website.
“I don’t know what the intervention
process is like.”
It is normal to feel as though seeking help for mental health is challenging,
especially when unsure of how the process may look like or what to expect during
intervention. However, you can be assured that your child’s
mental health professional will help them navigate different intervention
options and ensure they receive intervention that meets their needs.
Here is what you and your child can expect during your first conversation
with a mental health professional:
Your child can share about how they are
feeling and what led them to seek
support.
The professional will try to understand
your child's situation, as well as get to
know them better.
The professional will invite you and your
child to share intervention goals, or
outcomes you both wish to see at the end of
the intervention.
The professional will assess what has
been shared with them and involve you and
your child in a discussion on what to do
next.
You can learn more about different intervention options and how to get started
with seeking help here.
“I don’t know how much mental health
interventions may cost.”
There are many tiers of mental health services and support to help those
struggling with their mental health. As such, the cost of getting mental health
intervention can vary, depending on which tier of support your child
needs. Upon assessment, your mental health service provider can best advise you
on the estimated cost of the support or intervention required.
Here are some healthcare subsidies and schemes available to help lower the cost
of mental health services and make it more affordable as well as accessible. You
can also check with your insurance company if their policies
cover the cost of mental health services.
Subsidies for Outpatient Treatments at Public
Healthcare Institutions (PHIs)
Singaporeans and Permanent Residents can receive up to 75%
subsidies at polyclinics and specialist outpatient clinics in
public hospitals.
Click here to find out more about Subsidies
for
Specialist Outpatient Care, and here to find
out more about drug subsidies at PHIs on the Ministry of Health
(MOH)'s website.
MediSave for Outpatient Treatments under the Chronic
Disease Management Programme
(CDMP)
Depression, anxiety, bipolar disorders, and schizophrenia are
mental health conditions covered under the CDMP. Up to $500 or
$700, depending on the complexity of the condition, per MediSave
account a year
can be used for outpatient treatments, subject to 15% cash
co-payment. This cash co-payment will be waived for Healthier SG
enrolees seeking treatment at their enrolled clinics.
Click here to find out more about MediSave on
MOH's website.
Community Health Assist Scheme (CHAS)
Singaporeans who are CHAS, Pioneer Generation (PG), or Merdeka
Generation (MG) cardholders can receive subsidies at
participating CHAS General Practitioner (GP) clinics based on
the CHAS, PG, or MG card
they hold. CHAS chronic subsidies are available for mental
health conditions under the CDMP at selected clinics.
You can call the CHAS hotline (1800 275 2427) for more
information or click here to find out more about CHAS.
Subsidies for Acute Inpatient Psychiatric Care at
PHIs
Singaporeans and Permanent Residents accommodated in subsidised
acute inpatient wards (C, B2, B2+) can receive up to 80%
subsidies for inpatient mental health treatment at PHIs.
Click here to find out more about Subsidies
for Acute
Inpatient Care on MOH's website.
MediSave for Inpatient Psychiatric
Episodes
If the mental health condition leads to an admission to the
hospital for at least 8 hours, you can use up to $150 of your
MediSave per day for daily hospital charges (maximum of $5,000 a
year).
Click here to find out more about MediSave on
MOH's website.
MediShield Life Inpatient (Psychiatric)
If the mental health condition leads to an admission to the
hospital, up to $160 per inpatient day for up to 60 days per
policy year can be claimed from MediShield Life, a basic health
insurance scheme that
covers all Singaporeans and Permanent Residents.
Click here to find out more about MediShield
Life on
MOH's website.
If, despite Government subsidies, insurance, and MediSave, you still have trouble
affording your child’s mental health treatments, you can make use of MediFund
which is available at Public Healthcare Institutions (PHIs) as
a safety net to support Singaporeans and ensure no Singaporean is denied access
to subsidised care due to an inability to pay. You, your child, or other family
members can approach the medical social workers
at PHIs for assistance.
“I want to help my child, but I don’t
have the time.”
As you may often be busy with work and/or many other obligations, it is
understandable to feel worried about not being able to find enough time to
support your child. Fortunately, research has shown that the quality of
time parents spend with their children is more important than its quantity.
To ensure your child feels supported by you and increase the likelihood
of them reaching out to you for help, here are some ways you can
intentionally spend quality time with them:
Make time
for them
Let your child know that you are there
for them
If you are unavailable to speak at the
moment they approach you, let them know
you want to be there to listen to them
and provide a specific time that the
conversation can happen
Put aside
distractions such as digital devices during
mealtimes
Use the opportunity to engage your child
and have conversations instead
Offer to
accompany them to their interventions when
you have time
You can take advantage of holidays to
schedule appointments
Set aside
5-15 minutes a day (e.g. before bedtime) to
have a private moment with them
You can take this time to chat with your
child about their day or listen to any
concerns they may have
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