(ii) Addressing the barriers to reaching out for support for your child
Like your child, you may also have some worries and concerns about your child seeking support for their mental health. Remember that seeking help is not a sign of weakness but one of resilience and courage, and doing so early is important for better recovery.
Here are some common concerns parents may have:
“I don’t want others to treat my child differently.”
“I don’t want my child to have a mental health record
that might negatively affect their future.”
“I don’t know if mental health interventions will work
for my child.”
“I don’t want my child to suffer side effects from
medication.”
“I don’t know what the intervention process is like.”
“I don’t know how much mental health interventions may
cost.”
“I want to help my child, but I don’t have the time.”
“I don’t want others to treat my
child differently.”
It is understandable to worry about how your child will be viewed by
others if they receive support for their mental health. It is also
likely that your child may have similar concerns (e.g. judgement from
others). However, despite difficulties in openly discussing mental
health, it is not an uncommon experience.
According to the Singapore Youth Epidemiology and Resilience (YEAR)
Study (2023) conducted by the National University of Singapore, 1 in
3 youths (aged 10 to 18) in Singapore experienced symptoms such as
sadness, anxiety, and loneliness. As such, it is important to raise
awareness and talk about mental health and well-being openly so that
it may become easier for people to discuss their experiences.
While receiving professional help can be a big step to take, it is
key in preventing your child’s mental health from worsening. As a
parent, you have the power to be your child’s biggest ally. You can
do so by showing them that you prioritise their well-being and want
to involve them in their own process of seeking professional help.
Your care and support will be crucial in helping your child navigate any
judgment from others or tough conversations that may come their way. The
opinions of others should not prevent you from ensuring that your child
gets the right support they need.
“I don’t want my child to have a
mental health record that might negatively affect their future.”
Many parents (and youths themselves) may be worried about the perceived
long-term impact that a recorded mental health diagnosis might have on
their child’s prospects, such as their future career or education.
However, government agencies have put in place policies and guidelines
that require fair hiring practices to be applied to everyone, including
those with mental health conditions. Agencies are also educating
employers to ensure that they understand and follow these guidelines.
Under the Ministry of Manpower’s (MOM) Tripartite Guidelines on Fair
Employment Practices, companies should not ask job applicants to
declare personal information, which includes their mental health
conditions, unless it is a job-related requirement.
Click here to read the Tripartite Guidelines on
Fair Employment Practices.
Companies can also follow the recommendations in the Tripartite
Advisory on Mental Health and Well-being at Workplaces here to support the mental health and
well-being of employees.
“I don’t know if mental health
interventions will work for my child.”
There are a wide range of interventions that have been shown to
effectively address mental health struggles in children and youths. As
it can be daunting to identify which interventions are effective and
suitable for your child, seeking advice from professionals can ease the
process. They will be able to explain the interventions in detail (e.g.
what the intervention involves) and answer any questions you and your
child may have.
When you approach a mental health professional, you can ask them
for more details about:
The type of intervention plan that is appropriate for your child
Whether the interventions in your child’s plan have been shown to
be effective or evidence-informed
“I don’t want my child to suffer
side effects from medication.”
Most people who need help managing their mental health benefit from a
combination of different forms of support (e.g. from family and peers,
counselling without medication, psychotherapy without medication, or
psychotherapy with medication). Whether your child is given medication
will depend on the mental health professional’s assessment.
If your child is recommended medication, the mental health professional
will inform you and your child of potential side effects (if any) and
ways to manage them. It is also usually prescribed in combination with
psychotherapy sessions, where your child will learn and practice
healthier ways to cope with their feelings.
Remember, medication is not a ‘magic pill’ that instantly solves or
cures problems with mental health. It is crucial that your child
follows the support and intervention plan recommended by the
professionals supporting them.
Their mental health professional will also review the intervention
plan with you and your child periodically, to ensure it is still
suited to your child’s needs and that any side effects are managed
appropriately.
Click here to find out more about psychiatric
medications published on the Institute of Mental Health (IMH)
website.
“I don’t know what the
intervention process is like.”
It is normal to feel as though seeking help for mental health is
challenging, especially when unsure of how the process may look like or
what to expect during intervention. However, you can be rest assured
that your child’s mental health professional will help them navigate
different intervention options and ensure they receive intervention that
meets their needs.
Here is what you and your child can expect during your first
conversation with a mental health professional:
Your child can share about how
they are feeling and what led them
to seek support.
The professional will try to
understand your child's situation,
as well as get to know them
better.
The professional will invite you
and your child to share intervention
goals, or outcomes you both wish to
see at the end of the
intervention.
The professional will assess what
has been shared with them and
involve you and your child in a
discussion on what to do
next.
You can learn more about different intervention options and how to get
started with seeking help here.
“I don’t know how much mental
health interventions may cost.”
There are many tiers of mental health services and support to help those
struggling with their mental health. As such, the cost of getting mental
health intervention can vary, depending on which tier of support your
child needs. Upon assessment, your mental health service provider can
best advise you on the estimated cost of the support or intervention
required.
Here are some healthcare subsidies and schemes available to help lower
the cost of mental health services and make it more affordable as well
as accessible. You can also check with your insurance company if their
policies cover the cost of mental health services.
Subsidies for Outpatient Treatments at Public
Healthcare Institutions (PHIs)
Singaporeans and Permanent Residents can receive up to
75% subsidies at polyclinics and specialist
outpatient clinics in public hospitals.
Click here to find out more about
Subsidies for Specialist Outpatient Care, and here to find out more about drug
subsidies at PHIs on the Ministry of Health
(MOH)'s website.
MediSave for Outpatient Treatments under the
Chronic Disease Management Programme
(CDMP)
Depression, anxiety, bipolar disorders, and schizophrenia
are mental health conditions covered under the
CDMP. Up to $500 or $700, depending on the complexity of
the condition, per MediSave account a year can
be used for outpatient treatments, subject to 15% cash
co-payment. This cash co-payment will be waived
for Healthier SG enrolees seeking treatment at their
enrolled clinics.
Click here to
find out more about MediSave on MOH's website.
Community Health Assist Scheme
(CHAS)
Singaporeans who are CHAS, Pioneer Generation (PG), or
Merdeka Generation (MG) cardholders can receive
subsidies at participating CHAS General Practitioner
(GP) clinics based on the CHAS, PG, or MG card they
hold. CHAS chronic subsidies are available for
mental health conditions under the CDMP at selected
clinics.
You can call the CHAS hotline (1800 275 2427) for more
information or click here to find out more about
CHAS.
Subsidies for Acute Inpatient Psychiatric Care
at PHIs
Singaporeans and Permanent Residents accommodated in
subsidised acute inpatient wards (C, B2, B2+) can
receive up to 80% subsidies for inpatient mental health
treatment at PHIs.
Click here to find out more about
Subsidies for Acute Inpatient Care on MOH's website.
MediSave for Inpatient Psychiatric
Episodes
If the mental health condition leads to an admission to
the hospital for at least 8 hours, you can use up to
$150 of your MediSave per day for daily hospital charges
(maximum of $5,000 a year).
Click here to find out more about
MediSave on MOH's website.
MediShield Life Inpatient
(Psychiatric)
If the mental health condition leads to an admission to
the hospital, up to $160 per inpatient day for up to 60
days per policy year can be claimed from MediShield
Life, a basic health insurance scheme that covers all
Singaporeans and Permanent Residents.
Click here to find out more about
MediShield Life on MOH's website.
If, despite Government subsidies, insurance, and MediSave, you still have
trouble affording your child’s mental health treatments, you can make
use of MediFund which is available at Public Healthcare
Institutions (PHIs) as a safety net to support Singaporeans
and ensure no Singaporean is denied access to subsidised care due to an
inability to pay. You, your child, or other family members can approach
the respective medical social workers for assistance.
“I want to help my child, but I
don’t have the time.”
As you may often be busy with work and/or many other obligations, it is
understandable to feel worried about not being able to find enough time
to support your child.
To ensure your child feels supported by you and increase the
likelihood of them reaching out to you for help, here are some ways
you can intentionally spend quality time with them:
Make time for them
Let your child know that you are
there for them
If you are unavailable to speak
at the moment they approach you,
let them know you want to be
there to listen to them and
provide a specific time that the
conversation can happen
Put aside distractions such as
digital devices during
mealtimes
Use the opportunity to engage
your child and have
conversations instead
Offer to accompany them to their
interventions when you have
time
You can take advantage of
holidays to schedule
appointments and do so
Set aside 5-15 minutes a day
(e.g. before bedtime) to have a
private moment with them
You can take this time to chat
with your child about their day
or listen to any concerns they
may have