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(i) Providing your child with positive attention to show you are there for them

Your presence is the greatest present to your child. As such, it is important to take an interest in what is going on in their life. This is not limited to times you’ve intentionally set aside to talk to them.

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Why is positive attention important?

The purpose of providing positive attention is to show that you care. When your child knows you are there for them, they are more likely to share issues and challenges they are facing with you.

How do you start a conversation with your child?

Having conversations with your child is a good way to show them care and support. If you find it difficult to start a conversation with your child, you can try asking them about a topic that you know they are interested in or asking them about their opinion on an issue that you both know about.

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For younger children

Kids reading books

For older children

At times, your child may start the conversation instead and seek your support when you are busy or preoccupied. Where possible, pause what you are doing, even briefly, to listen to them. Let your child know that you really appreciate them opening up and would like to hear more at another time. Be specific in letting them know when that time would be and ensure you follow up with them.

What are some important things to consider when conversing with your child?

It is important to keep in mind your child’s comfort and feelings when having a conversation with them. When talking to your child about taboo or sensitive topics, choose a private environment for the conversation as having other people around may make it difficult for them to be honest and open with you. You should also hold back from showing judgement, so they feel safe to share.

Additionally, try to have open conversations about their online activities. This will help you to understand more about your child and be able to provide support when they face challenges online.