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Gradually expose them to tasks that can develop their confidence using the “I Do, We Do, You Do” approach
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I Do: Show them how to do the chore properly
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We Do: Do the chore together with them
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You Do: Encourage them to complete the chore on their own
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For example, you can show your child how to pack their school bag according to their class timetable, then watch them do so for the next day. Following this, allow them to pack their school bag on their own
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Remember to affirm their effort even if there may be times they do not complete the chore properly or meet your expectations
How can you introduce your child to new responsibilities?
Engaging your child in starting household chores and other responsibilities may be difficult in the beginning. They may do things slower than desired, not always follow your instructions properly, or approach tasks in a different way than you would.
Despite these challenges, it is important to take a step back and let them try things out for themselves. Remember that these opportunities will help your child bolster their confidence, learn through trial and error, and develop independence over time.
Here are some ways you can help your child as they start to manage new tasks and responsibilities:
For younger children:
For older children:
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Think of skills you would like them to learn and intentionally involve them in family activities that develop those skills
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For example, if you would like them to learn to manage their money and hone their planning skills:
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Be intentional in involving them in the planning of day-to-day family meals
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Give them a brief guideline on the budget and allow them to do their own research
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Be open to their suggestions on what could be included in the meal plan
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By involving them in tasks related to the skills you wish for them to strengthen, you can provide your child with opportunities to hone their skills through practice
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They will also be able to grow their confidence, develop independence, and build stronger family bonds
As you provide your child with appropriate opportunities to build their independence, it is also important to ensure you support them with reassurance and guidance.
Here are some ways you can guide and encourage your child as they complete their responsibilities:
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Highlight their progress, perseverance, and what they have done well
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For example, "I like how you wiped the table sparkling clean!"
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Consider writing each family members’ chores for the day/week on a piece of paper or on a board
